How to initiate and lead hard conversations as A Christian woman
...even if you struggle with confrontation, aren’t sure what to say, and want to avoid hurting people in the process.

You’re a Christian woman leading in ministry, business, or at home, and there are times when you know an issue needs to be addressed.

  • Perhaps a co-worker does something on an ongoing basis that causes you to have more work than necessary. 
  • Maybe a team member has a negative attitude, which is affecting the rest of your organization. 
  • ​It could be that you and your spouse continue to have an argument about one specific issue. 
  • Or your friend did something that really hurt you, but she doesn’t even realize it.

You know hard conversations will lead to growth and healthier relationships, but you don’t know where to start.

Maybe you feel like...

• You’re not great at conflict, so it’s daunting to think about having hard conversations
• You’ve tried initiating difficult conversations in the past, and it’s always failed
• You have a strong personality, and others seem to be intimidated by this
• You’re concerned that speaking up might cause more harm than good
• You might say something you regret in the heat of the moment
• You want to remain humble and keep your personal agenda out of the equation
• You want the conversations to be constructive, but you’re not always sure how to do this
Communication breakdowns and conflict are bound to happen...
but it can feel impossible to find the right ways to handle them.
Communication breakdowns and conflict are bound to happen...
but it can feel impossible to find the right ways to handle them.
"BE BOLD" THEY SAID
You hear people say “be bold” or “speak up” or “deal with the conflict”... but you’re not exactly sure how to go about that without offending someone, hurting feelings, or coming across as pushing or controlling.
DEALING WITH THE PROBLEMS RIGHT AWAY SEEMS TO BACKFIRE
You’ve tried addressing the hard topics right away, as soon as they happen… but it only seems to make it worse, because you were upset and or the other person misunderstood your motives.
BUT LEAVING THINGS UNSAID RESULTS IN MORE CONFLICT AND CHALLENGEs
On the other hand, perhaps you have followed the advice of “don’t rock the boat” or “be a nice Christian girl”. You’ve avoided the issues altogether because it seems like that’s the easier option. It’s probably not that big of a deal, so why rock the boat, right?
"BE BOLD" They said
You hear people say “be bold” or “speak up” or “deal with the conflict”... but you’re not exactly sure how to go about that without offending someone, hurting feelings, or coming across as pushing or controlling.
Dealing with the problems right away seems to backfire
You’ve tried addressing the hard topics right away, as soon as they happen… but it only seems to make it worse, because you were upset and or the other person misunderstood your motives.
but leaving things unsaid results in more conflict and challenges
On the other hand, perhaps you have followed the advice of “don’t rock the boat” or “be a nice Christian girl”. You’ve avoided the issues altogether because it seems like that’s the easier option. It’s probably not that big of a deal, so why rock the boat, right?
The truth is that it’s not your fault...
... the church has not done a great job of preparing us to deal with hard conversations
... and even though you might be in a leadership role, you may not have received the training or skills to navigate the touchy topics with your team.
... it feels like you need a degree in communications in order to deal with these situations, but you don’t have time or money to do so
But I've found a way to have these tough conversations (without an extra degree), and I'm ready to help you do the same.
OR A LONG TIME, I AVOIDED THE HARD CONVERSATIONS.
I didn’t want to ruffle feathers, and I was scared to try and approach the difficult issues. I ignored uncomfortable roommate situations in college and even hesitated to bring up challenging topics with my husband.
FOR A LONG TIME, I AVOIDED THE HARD CONVERSATIONS.
I didn’t want to ruffle feathers, and I was scared to try and approach the difficult issues. I ignored uncomfortable roommate situations in college and even hesitated to bring up challenging topics with my husband.
But there came a point when ignoring the hard issues was no longer effective.
I decided to take action and have a hard conversation with a co-worker. And I didn't die. The more hard conversations I had, the easier it became. 

And I started to find ways to bring together my social work background, my writing and communication skills, and my business experience in order to address concerns and have hard conversations.

I began to see how having these conversations created more freedom and opportunity for connection in relationships. And I saw how having confidence going into the conversation can impact the way the issue is communicated.

What would life be like if you felt confident to initiate and lead the hard conversations... with co-workers, friends, family, your boss, or clients?

And what if these conversations actually led to resolving conflict more quickly 
AND deepening connections with others in your life? What if you could do the following... 
And what if these conversations actually led to resolving conflict more quickly 
AND deepening connections with others in your life? What if you could do the following... 
Resolve Conflict Biblically
Live out Biblical principles for conflict resolution and communication which will set an example for those you are leading and develop a healthier culture.
Build healthier relationships
When you initiate and navigate tough conversations with confidence, it helps to deepen your connection with others. You will build healthier relationships by having the hard conversations.
CREATE TRANSFORMATION
Leading hard conversations will not only create healthier 1:1 relationships, but it also has the power to create transformation in workplaces, churches, and even our broader culture. As a leader, you will be setting the example to others in your circle of influence when you take the lead in having these conversations with confidence.
it is possible
TO RESOLVE CONFLICT, BUILD HEALTHIER RELATIONSHIPS, AND CREATE TRANSFORMATION
without
SECOND-GUESSING YOURSELF....
without
A COMMUNICATION DEGREE....
without
WASTING TIME WORRYING ABOUT WHAT TO SAY...
introducing
Confident Conversations
learn how to have courageous conversations that lead to more connection and conflict resolution

a 5-step minicourse for Christian women
CONFIDENT CONVERSATIONS will help you
do all of the following...
Get the Timing Right
First, you'll be able to assess when hard conversations are necessary instead (and when you can just move on). Then you'll understand how to initiate tough discussions in a way that works for you and the other person involved and sets the scene for success.
Be Guided by Your Faith
You will learn the Biblical
principles and specific Scriptures that relate to having hard conversations. In addition, be prepared with prayers so that you have the right spirit as you
approach the conversation.
Know How to Approach the Convo
Learn how to initiate the
conversation with ease. Find out some tips about how to approach the person to minimize defensiveness and create the best potential scenario for a positive interaction.
Develop the Right Mindset
Learn the key principles that will guide you as you lead the difficult conversations. These will start with the foundation of mindset, but will also include some practical things you can do as well.
Plus, get the exact words and phrases to help guide your hard conversations.
Learn and practice the words that will help your conversation flow smoothly and create an environment of trust and resolution.
WHAT’S INCLUDED
Within this mini-course, you'll get access to the following:
Conversation Confidence Formula
Learn the 5 part formula that will lead to successfully initiating and leading hard conversations. This intro lesson will set you up and help you be ready to approach various difficult conversations. [VIDEO + PDF]
Conversation Urgency Assessment
This training will teach you how to determine when it’s really necessary to have the hard conversation vs. when it’s better to move on. You’ll learn the criteria I use for figuring out when to approach someone or not and be able to develop your own criteria. [VIDEO + PDF]
Confident Conversation Initiation
One of the hardest parts of a hard conversation is simply initiating the conversation. Find out how to make the first contact to reach out and set up the hard conversation. This will help create the most potential for a successful outcome. [VIDEO + PDF]
Faith Foundations for Confident Conversations
Learn the Biblical principles for dealing with conflict and communication, along with scripture references you can meditate on or memorize and prayers you can pray before the conversations. This will help you stay grounded in a Biblical approach to dealing with conflict and conversations with others. [VIDEO + PDF]
Principles for Leading Hard Conversations
Discover the foundational principles that will give you confidence in the midst of hard conversations. These will help you have the right mindset when going into difficult conversations. [VIDEO + PDF]
Confident Conversation Scripts
Get access to exact words and phrases I’ve found to be effective to address difficult topics. You’ll receive scripts for various situations, including having hard conversations with your co-worker, boss, friend, spouse, and more. This will help you reduce unspoken assumptions and nagging frustrations so you can build a positive environment at work, church, or home. [ 6 VIDEOS + PDF]

Plus these extra bonuses:

  • Dos and Don'ts of Confident Conversations: What NOT to say… and what to say instead [VIDEO + PDF]
  • Managing Your Emotions:  Get emotionally prepared for hard conversations, plus keep your emotions in check during and after [VIDEO + PDF]
  • Challenging Conversations: What to do when nothing seems to work [VIDEO]
Learn how to have courageous conversations that lead to more connection and conflict resolution with Confident Conversations
Conversation Confidence Formula. . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
Conversation Urgency Assessment . . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
Confident Conversation Initiation . . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
Faith Foundations . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
First Piece Of The Offer. . . . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Second Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Third Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Fourth Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Confident Conversation Scripts . . . . . . . . . . (Value $77)
Bonus: Dos and Don'ts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .  (Value $17)
Bonus: Managing Your Emotions . . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
Bonus: Challenging Conversations  . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
HERE'S THE DEAL.
This mini-course is not going away, at least not right now. 

So you can delay purchasing if you wish. However, the sooner you take action on developing your ability to have hard conversations, the more prepared you will be to deal with these situations as they arise. 

Don’t let those unresolved issues or potentially harmful communication habits stick around… instead, grab this resource and begin experiencing more confidence as you lead hard conversations in your workplace, church, or home.
CONFIDENT CONVERSATIONS
Feel Confident Initiating & Leading Hard Conversations
Conversation Confidence Formula. . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
Conversation Urgency Assessment . . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
Confident Conversation Initiation . . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
Faith Foundations . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
First Piece Of The Offer. . . . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Second Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Third Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Fourth Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Confident Conversation Scripts . . . . . . . . . . (Value $77)
Bonus: Dos and Don'ts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .  (Value $17)
Bonus: Managing Your Emotions . . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
Bonus: Challenging Conversations  . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Conversation Confidence Formula   (Value $27)
Conversation Urgency Assessment   (Value $27)
Confident Conversation Initiation   (Value $27)
Faith Foundations                                  (Value $27)
Confident Conversation Scripts        (Value $77)
BONUSES:
Dos and Don'ts                                       (Value $17)
Managing Your Emotions                    (Value $27)
Challenging Conversations                  (Value $27)
THERE'S NO RISK...
If you are not 100% satisfied with the resources, training, and support provided in the Confident Conversations mini-course after 14 days, you may request a refund. 

While I cannot guarantee that every conversation you have will go swimmingly, I truly believe that if you put the principles, scripts, and guidelines into place in your life, you will experience much more confidence when it comes to having the hard conversations.
get results
Gain clarity and move towards resolution by taking this mini-course.
I needed to have a difficult conversation with someone recently, and I was looking for a Christian perspective on how (and whether) to respond to the person. I considered asking my question elsewhere online, but decided, instead, to go to Esther's group of Christian women leaders. Esther's personal response to me was full of empathy, wisdom and biblical guidance that helped me get past my emotions and move forward towards resolution. I'm happy to report that I followed her advice and the situation was quickly remedied.
- MERRITT ONSA, DEVOTED DREAMERS

Who am I, and how can I help you?

I'm Esther Littlefield, host of the Christian Woman Leadership Podcast and writer at EstherLittlefield.com. I'm also a business owner, pastor's wife, and mom. I also happen to LOVE being right.

But I've learned that there's a lot of other things more important than being right... like healthy relationships, vulnerability, connection, and honesty.

I'm passionate about Christians being able to resolve conflict effectively, and I've made hard conversations a regular part of my life. Not because I love conflict, but because I recognize the results that these hard conversations can produce.

Over the years, I've had many people come to me to help them with how to handle wording difficult emails and what to say when dealing with a tough situation. I've also provided wording and guidance for handling conflict within the ministry setting.

In this course, I'm combining my experience as a former social worker, business owner, and ministry leader to share with you what I've learned so that you can go out and feel prepared to have the tough conversations... with confidence.
CONFIDENT CONVERSATIONS
Feel Confident Initiating & Leading Hard Conversations
Conversation Confidence Formula   (Value $27)
Conversation Urgency Assessment   (Value $27)
Confident Conversation Initiation   (Value $27)
Faith Foundations                                  (Value $27)
Confident Conversation Scripts        (Value $77)
BONUSES:
Dos and Don'ts                                       (Value $17)
Managing Your Emotions                    (Value $27)
Challenging Conversations                  (Value $27)
Conversation Confidence Formula. . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
Conversation Urgency Assessment . . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
Confident Conversation Initiation . . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
Faith Foundations . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
First Piece Of The Offer. . . . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Second Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Third Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Fourth Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Confident Conversation Scripts . . . . . . . . . . (Value $77)
Bonus: Dos and Don'ts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .  (Value $17)
Bonus: Managing Your Emotions . . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
Bonus: Challenging Conversations  . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
Bonus Piece Of The Offer . . . . . . . (Value $497)
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Find out all the details you might be wondering about here.
Will this mini-course address all potential hard conversations I might need to have and solve all my communication problems?
Nope! ;-) But it will give you a solid foundation to build upon. It will provide you with the wording and scripts that have worked for me and give you guidelines and principles that you can customize for yourself. However, it’s not a full-fledged communication course and thus will not teach you everything you need to know when it comes to hard conversations.
How much time is required to go through the materials?
I’ve tried to keep the lessons on the shorter side so that you can complete them quickly. You can likely get through all the materials in less than 2 hours, but it will be the practice and action you take that will help you to see the results.

There are 5 lessons in the mini-course in addition to the 3 bonus lessons.
What if I don’t have an official leadership role? Is this still for me?
Yes, this resource is designed for any woman who desires to be able to have confidence in hard conversations. This can include situations with family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors, clients, and more. These principles can be used in various situations and settings, regardless of your official role.
How long do I have access to this?
Once you purchase, it’s yours for life! Plus, you can download many of the materials so that you can access them directly on your computer or device.
Is there a community for this product?
No, there is not a FB group for this product. However, you’re welcome to connect with other leaders in our free Purposeful Leadership group. 
Can I share this mini-course and/or the contents with others?
You are welcome to send others to http://confidentconversations.co/ to purchase the resource for themselves. But please do not share the contents of this course with anyone since this is a paid product for individual use only. If you are a leader or manager and would like to discuss providing this course for your team, please email me at hello@estherlittlefield.com.
Here’s the truth: you can keep on living your life without this resource. But if you choose to be one of the brave ones who is willing to have hard conversations, this course will help you have more confidence as you step out

You can be a part of changing our Christian culture by speaking up and resolving conflict in a healthy way. We can reduce the number of people leaving churches and organizations due to miscommunications. 

When you are bold enough to have hard conversations, and when you go into them with confidence and the skills to do so, you have the power to create a positive ripple effect.
CONFIDENT CONVERSATIONS
Feel Confident Initiating & Leading Hard Conversations
Conversation Confidence Formula   (Value $27)
Conversation Urgency Assessment   (Value $27)
Confident Conversation Initiation   (Value $27)
Faith Foundations                                  (Value $27)
Confident Conversation Scripts        (Value $77)
BONUSES:
Dos and Don'ts                                       (Value $17)
Managing Your Emotions                    (Value $27)
Challenging Conversations                  (Value $27)
Conversation Confidence Formula. . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
Conversation Urgency Assessment . . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
Confident Conversation Initiation . . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
Faith Foundations . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
Confident Conversation Scripts . . . . . . . . . . (Value $77)
Bonus: Dos and Don'ts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .  (Value $17)
Bonus: Managing Your Emotions . . . . . . . . . (Value $27)
Bonus: Challenging Conversations  . . . . . . .  (Value $27)
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